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Isincoko sothando lukamama

 

Uthando lukamama yenye yezona mvakalelo zinamandla umntu anokuba nazo. Luthando olungenamiqathango nolukhulu kakhulu olukugqubuthela ngokufudumeleyo kwaye lukwenze uzive ukhuselekile. Umama nguye okunika ubomi, ukunika ukhuseleko kwaye akufundise indlela yokuphila. Ukunika konke okusemandleni akhe kwaye uyazincama ngenxa yakho engalindelanga mbuyekezo. Olu thando alunakufaniswa nayo nayiphi na enye imvakalelo kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuyilibala okanye ukuyityeshela.

Wonke umama wahlukile kwaye uthando alunikayo lwahlukile. Enoba ngumama onenyameko nokhuselayo, okanye umama odlamkileyo nothanda izinto ezingaqhelekanga, uthando alunikelayo luhlala lomelele yaye lolokwenene. Umama uhlala ekhona ngenxa yakho, nokuba usebumnandini okanye kakubi, kwaye uhlala ekunika inkxaso oyifunayo ukuze ufezekise amaphupha akho kunye neminqweno yakho.

Uthando lukamama lubonakala kuyo yonke into eyenziwa ngumama. Kukuncumo lwakhe, kwinkangeleko yakhe, kwizenzo zakhe zothando nakwinkathalo ayibonakalisa kubantwana bakhe. Luthando olungenakulinganiswa ngamazwi okanye ngezenzo, kodwa luvakala kuwo wonke umzuzu ochithwe kunye naye.

Kungakhathaliseki ubudala, umntwana ngamnye ufuna uthando nenkuselo kamama. Le yile ibonelela ngentuthuzelo kunye noxolo oludingayo ukuze ukhule kwaye ukhule ube ngumntu omdala onamandla kwaye onoxanduva. Yiyo loo nto uthando lukamama luyenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo nezixabisekileyo ebomini bakhe nabani na.

Iqhina phakathi kukamama nomntwana lolona thando lunamandla nolunyulu. Ukususela kumzuzu wokukhulelwa, umama uqala ukunikela ubomi bakhe kunye nokukhusela umntwana wakhe kuzo zonke iindleko. Enoba lixesha lokuzalwa okanye yonke imihla elandelayo, uthando lukamama luhlala lukhona kwaye yimvakalelo engenakuchazwa ngamagama.

Uthando lukamama alupheli, nokuba umntwana ungakanani na. Enoba lusana olufuna ukunyanyekelwa okanye ngumntu omdala ofuna ukhokelo nenkxaso, umama usoloko ekulungele ukunceda. Kwanaxa umntwana esenza iimpazamo okanye esenza izigqibo eziphosakeleyo, uthando lukamama luhlala lungenamiqathango yaye aluze luphele.

Kwiinkcubeko nakwiinkonzo ezininzi, umama uhlonelwa njengophawu lothando lobuthixo. Njengothixokazi okhuselayo, umama uyamkhusela aze amnyamekele umntwana wakhe, esoloko emnika uthando nothando alufunayo. Nakwimeko yokulahlekelwa ngumntwana, uthando lukamama aluze luphele yaye luyabaxhasa abo bashiyekileyo.

Ukuqukumbela, uthando lukamama luyimvakalelo ekhethekileyo nengenakuthelekiswa nanto. Luthando olungenamiqathango olukwenza uzive ukhuselekile kwaye ukhuselekile. Umama nguye okufundisa ukuphila kwaye uhlala ekunika inkxaso oyifunayo. Yiyo loo nto ungaze ulutyeshele okanye ululibale uthando nokuzinikela kukanyoko.

 

Malunga nothando esilunikwa ngoomama

 

I. Intshayelelo

Uthando lukamama luyimvakalelo ekhethekileyo nengenakuthelekiswa nanto engenakuthelekiswa nanto. Phezu kwayo nje isibakala sokuba yimvakalelo yehlabathi lonke, umama ngamnye unendlela yakhe yokubonisa uthando kumntwana wakhe.

II. Iimpawu zothando lukamama

Uthando lukamama alunamiqathango kwaye lungunaphakade. Umama uyamthanda yaye uyamkhusela umntwana wakhe kwanaxa enze iimpazamo okanye enze kakubi. Ngokufanayo, uthando lukamama alupheli ngokuhamba kwexesha, kodwa luhlala luqinile kwaye luqinile ebomini bonke.

III. Impembelelo yothando lukamama ekuphuhliseni umntwana

Uthando lukamama lunendima ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni komntwana. Umntwana okhuliswe kwindawo enothando nenothando kunokwenzeka ukuba akhule ngokwasemphefumlweni, engqondweni nangokwentlalo. Kwakhona kuya kuphuhlisa ukuzithemba okukhulu kunye nokukwazi ukulungelelanisa utshintsho kunye nemingeni.

IV. Ukubaluleka kokugcina uthando lukamama

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Kubalulekile ukuba uthando lukamama luxhaswe kwaye lukhuthazwe eluntwini. Oku kunokufezekiswa ngeenkqubo zenkxaso koomama nabantwana, kwanokukhuthaza umgaqo-nkqubo wokuxolelanisa ubomi bosapho nobomi bomsebenzi.

V. Uxhulumaniso lukaMama

Uthando lukamama kunokuthiwa lolona mvakalelo lunamandla nolunyulu umntu anokuba nalo. Ukususela ekubeni umfazi eba ngumama, uba nolwalamano olunzulu nomntwana wakhe obuya kuhlala ubomi babo bonke. Uthando lukamama lubonakaliswa luthando, inkathalo, ukukhuselwa, kunye nokuzinikela okungaguqukiyo, kwaye ezi mpawu zilwenza luxabiseke ngakumbi kwihlabathi lethu.

Kwiinyanga zokuqala kunye neminyaka yobomi bomntwana, uthando lukamama luzibonakalisa ngesidingo sokumondla, ukunyamekela nokukhusela. Umfazi uzinikela ngokupheleleyo kulo msebenzi, elibala malunga neemfuno zakhe kunye neenkxalabo zakhe. Eli xesha libalulekile ekukhuleni komntwana, yaye uthando oluqhubekayo lukamama nenkathalo ibalulekile ekukhuleni kwakhe ngokweemvakalelo nasentlalweni. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, umntwana uya kuphuhlisa isimilo sakhe, kodwa uya kuhlala ephethe inkumbulo yothando olungagungqiyo alufumana kumama.

Njengoko umntwana ekhula yaye ezimela, indima kamama iyatshintsha, kodwa uthando alutshintshi. Ibhinqa liba yisikhokelo esithembekileyo, umxhasi kunye nomhlobo okhuthaza umntwana wakhe ukuba ahlolisise ihlabathi kwaye alandele amaphupha akhe. Ngamaxesha anzima, umama uhlala nomntwana aze amncede anqobe imiqobo.

VI. Ukuqukumbela

Uthando lukamama yimvakalelo ekhethekileyo nengenakuthelekiswa nanto enokuba nempembelelo entle ekukhuleni komntwana. Ngokuxhasa nokukhuthaza uthando lukamama, sinokufak’ isandla ekuphuhliseni ibutho labantu elinemvisiswano nelilungeleleneyo.

 

Ukuqulunqwa malunga nothando olungenakuphela lukamama

 

Ukususela ekuzalweni kwam, ndaluva uthando lukamama olungenakuphela. Ndakhulela kwimeko yothando nenyameko, yaye umama wayesoloko endixhasa, enoba kwenzeka ntoni na. Waye, kwaye usenjalo, iqhawe lam, elandibonisa ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumama ozinikeleyo.

Umama wanikela ubomi bakhe bonke kum kunye nabantakwethu. Uncama iimfuno zakhe kwaye ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba sonwabile kwaye sisempilweni. Ndikhumbula ndivuka ekuseni ndafumana isidlo sakusasa sele silungisiwe, iimpahla zilungisiwe kunye nebhegi ilungele ukuya esikolweni. Umama wayesoloko endikhuthaza yaye endixhasa kuyo nantoni na endandizimisele ukuyenza.

Naxa ndandijamelene nobunzima, umama wayendixhasa. Ndikhumbula endiwola endixelela ukuba uya kusoloko esecaleni kwam, enoba kwenzeka ntoni na. Wandibonisa ukuba uthando lukamama alupheli kwaye akasoze andincame.

Olu thando lungayekiyo lukamama lwandenza ndaqonda ukuba uthando lolona thunywashe lunamandla ehlabathini. Inokusenza soyise nawuphi na umqobo kwaye soyise nawuphi na umda. Oomama bangamaqhawe okwenene anikezela ubomi babo bonke ekukhuseleni nasekuxhaseni abantwana babo.

Okokugqibela, uthando lukamama luhlobo olulodwa lothando olungenakuthelekiswa nalo naluphi na olunye uhlobo lothando. Ngamandla amangalisayo asinika amandla okujongana nawo nawuphi na umqobo kwaye soyise imida yethu. Kanye njengokuba umama wayesoloko ekhona ngenxa yam, oomama bakhona ukuze basibonise ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuthanda into engapheliyo kwaye uzinikele ngokupheleleyo emntwini.

Shiya iikhomenti.