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Isincoko esinomxholo othi “Uthando Olungunaphakade”

 

Uthando lolona mvakalelo lunamandla noluqatha esinokuthi sibe namava kuwo njengabantu. Ngamandla anokusikhuthaza, asikhuthaze kwaye asizalise ngovuyo, kodwa anokuba ngumthombo wentlungu nokubandezeleka xa silahlekile okanye singabiwanga. Kodwa uthando olungunaphakade luhlobo olukhethekileyo lothando olunzulu kwaye luhlala luhleli ngaphezu kwalo naluphi na olunye uhlobo lothando.

Uthando olungunaphakade luthando oluhlala ubomi bonke kwaye lunokubonwa phakathi kwamaqabane amabini angamaqabane omphefumlo okanye phakathi komzali nomntwana. Luthando oludlula ixesha kunye nendawo kwaye lukhona ngaphaya kwemida yethu yenyama. Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba uthando olungunaphakade lukho ngaphaya kweli hlabathi kwaye lingamandla angcwele abopha imiphefumlo yethu.

Olu hlobo lothando lunokuba sisipho kunye nomngeni. Ngelixa inokuba ngamava amahle kakhulu kunye nokwanelisayo, kunokuba nzima ukufumana kunye nokugcina uthando lwanaphakade. Oku kufuna ukuzinikela rhoqo, ukuqonda okunzulu kunye nonxibelelwano oluvulelekileyo nolunyanisekileyo phakathi kwamaqabane. Ngaphezu koko, kunokuba nzima ukugcina olu thando ngexesha lomngeni kunye nobunzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka ngokulalanisa, uthando kunye nokuqondana.

Uthando olungunaphakade alupheleli nje ngokuthandana kunye nokuthanda, kodwa kunye nokuthanda abo basingqongileyo ngaphandle kwemiqathango kwaye ngaphandle kokulindela. Ukuthanda ngale ndlela kunokuguqula ubomi bethu kwaye kuzise utshintsho oluhle kwihlabathi lethu.

Uthando lungamandla adlula ixesha kunye nendawo. Iyakwazi ukubopha imiphefumlo emibini ngonaphakade, kungakhathaliseki ukuba iimeko zangaphandle. Uthando lwanaphakade lolo hlobo lothando olungaphaya komqobo wexeshana kwaye lunokuviwa kwaye lube namava kubo bonke ubomi, nokuba bubudala okanye xa lusenzeka.

Nangona uthando olungunaphakade ngamanye amaxesha lubonakala luyingcamango nje yothando, kukho imizekelo emininzi yehlabathi yokwenyani engqina ngenye indlela. Imitshato ehlala amashumi eminyaka okanye amakhulu eminyaka inqabile, kodwa ayikho. Ukusuka kwizibini ezidumileyo ezifana ne-Romeo noJuliet okanye uTristan no-Isolde, ukuya koomakhulu bethu kunye nootatomkhulu ababekunye ubomi, uthando olungunaphakade lusikhumbuza ukuba kunokwenzeka kwaye kufanelekile ukulwa.

Nangona uthando olungunaphakade lubonakala luyinto engenakwenzeka ekuqaleni, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba oku akuthethi ukuba ubudlelwane buya kufezeka okanye kungabikho iingxaki. Ulwalamano oluhlala luhleli lufuna umsebenzi omninzi, ukulungelelana kunye nokuzincama. Kodwa xa kukho uthando olunzulu phakathi kwabantu ababini, kunokuba yintshukumisa enamandla yokoyisa nawuphi na umqobo nokujamelana neengxaki zobomi kunye.

Ukuqukumbela, uthando lwanaphakade lungamandla aqinileyo kwaye ahlala ehleli anokugcwalisa ubomi bethu ngovuyo kunye nolonwabo. Luthando oludlula ixesha nendawo kwaye lunokufunyanwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Nangona kunokuba ngumngeni ukugcina olu thando, kunokwenzeka ukuyigcina ngokuzibophelela, uthando kunye nokuqondana.

 

Malunga nothando olungunaphakade

 

I. Intshayelelo

Uthando yimvakalelo enzulu nenamandla enokuviwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nobunzulu. Kodwa kukho uhlobo lothando oludlula imida yexesha nendawo, eyaziwa ngokuba luthando lwanaphakade. Olu hlobo lothando lugqalwa ngabaninzi njengolona lunyulu nolunzulu kuzo zonke iintlobo zothando. Kweli phepha, siza kuphonononga ingcamango yothando olungunaphakade kwaye sihlolisise iimpawu zayo ezahlukileyo.

II. Iimpawu zothando lwanaphakade

Uthando olungunaphakade lubonakaliswa yinyaniso yokuba luzingisa ngexesha, ludlula imida yobomi nokufa. Olu hlobo lothando lunokuba namava ngendlela enzulu kunye nenzulu, ukudala unxibelelwano oluhamba ngaphaya kokuqonda komntu. Uthando olungunaphakade lunokufunyanwa kuphela phakathi kwabantu ababini, kodwa naphakathi kwabantu nezilwanyana, okanye phakathi kwabantu kunye nezinto okanye iingcamango.

Uthando olungunaphakade lukwagqalwa njengolungenamiqathango, nto leyo ethetha ukuba aluphenjelelwa ziimeko okanye izenzo zabo babandakanyekileyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba imeko ithini na, uthando olungunaphakade luhlala lungaguquki kwaye alunciphi ngamandla. Kwakhona, olu hlobo lothando lunyulu kwaye lungazingci, lushukunyiswa kuphela ngumnqweno wokubonelela ngolonwabo nothando kwabo babathandayo.

III. Imizekelo yothando lwanaphakade

Kukho imizekelo emininzi yothando olungunaphakade kwiincwadi kunye nenkcubeko eyaziwayo. Umzekelo obalaseleyo libali likaRomeo noJuliet, abafa kunye kwisenzo sothando olusulungekileyo nolungangxengwanga. Omnye umzekelo yifilimu ethi "Ghost", apho abalinganiswa uSam noMolly baqhubeka nothando lwabo nangemva kokufa kukaSam.

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Kukho imizekelo emininzi yothando olungunaphakade phakathi kwabantu kunye nezilwanyana, njengebali likaHachiko, inja eyayilinde inkosi yayo kwisikhululo sikaloliwe yonke imihla iminyaka eyi-9, nasemva kokuba efile.

IV. Uthando njenge-utopia

Ehlabathini apho ubudlelwane buthanda ukuba ngaphaya kwaye bufutshane, uthando lwanaphakade lunokubonakala ngathi yi-utopia. Nangona kunjalo, kusekho abantu abakholelwa ngamandla kumandla kunye nokuqina kothando lokwenene. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba uthando lwanaphakade aluphelelanga nje ekufumaneni umntu ozakwabelana naye ngobomi bakho, lumalunga nokufumana umntu ogqibayo nokuxhasayo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi, nokuba imiqobo enokuthi ivele ebomini bakho.

V. Ubukho bothando

Uthando olungunaphakade aluthethi ukuba niya konwaba ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa luthetha ukuba niya kuhlala kunye nokuba bubuphi ubunzima enidibana nabo. Imalunga nokuba nomonde, uvelwano, ukuqonda, kwaye uzimisele ukusebenza kubudlelwane bakho yonke imihla. Kukwabalulekile ukunyaniseka nokunxibelelana ngokuphandle, ukuhloniphana kunye nokuba yinkxaso komnye ngamaxesha onke.

VI. Ukuqukumbela

Uthando olungunaphakade luhlobo lothando oludlula ixesha kunye nendawo, ludala iqhina eliqinileyo nelingenakuguqulwa phakathi kwabo babandakanyekayo. Olu hlobo lothando lujongwa ngabaninzi njengelona lisulungekileyo kwaye linzulu kuzo zonke iintlobo zothando kwaye lunokufunyanwa kungekuphela nje phakathi kwabantu, kodwa naphakathi kwabantu nezilwanyana okanye izinto. Ekugqibeleni, uthando olungunaphakade lunokuthathwa njengendlela yokuqonda kunye nokudibanisa.

 

Ukuqamba malunga nothando olungenamkhawulo

 

Uthando yenye yezona mvakalelo zinamandla ehlabathini. Unamandla kangangokuba unokubopha abantu ngonaphakade. Ngamanye amaxesha uthando lunokuba namandla kangangokuba luphila nasemva kokufa kwabo babandakanyekayo kulo, lube yinto esiyibiza ngokuthi "uthando olungunaphakade."

Ukutyhubela ixesha, abantu abaninzi abadumileyo baye bavakalisa ukukholelwa kwabo kubukho bothando olungunaphakade. Ngokomzekelo, imbongi yaseItali uDante Alighieri wabhala ngokuthanda kwakhe uBeatrice kwi "Divine Comedy", kwaye iRomeo noJuliet bamele umzekelo weklasi wothando olungunaphakade kwiincwadi. Kubomi bokwenyani, kukho imizekelo yothando olungunaphakade, njengothando lukaJohn Lennon noYoko Ono okanye lukaKing Edward VIII kunye nomfazi wakhe uWallis Simpson.

Kodwa yintoni eyenza uthando lube ngunaphakade? Abanye bakholelwa ukuba imalunga nonxibelelwano oluqinileyo lokomoya kunye neemvakalelo phakathi kwabantu ababini ababandakanyekayo ebavumela ukuba banxibelelane kwaye baqonde omnye komnye kwinqanaba elinzulu. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba uthando olungunaphakade lusekelwe kwinto yokuba aba bantu babini banemilinganiselo kunye neenjongo ezifanayo ebomini, nto leyo eyenza ukuba bahambelane ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye bayancedisana.

Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, uthando olungunaphakade luyimvakalelo entle nekhuthazayo esikhumbuza ukuba kukho into engaphaya kobudlelwane obungaphaya kokwadlulayo. Inokuba ngumthombo wamandla nenkuthazo kwabo babandakanyekileyo, ibanike isiseko esiqinileyo sokwakha ubuhlobo bexesha elide nolonwabo.

Ukuqukumbela, uthando olungunaphakade luyimvakalelo enamandla nekhuthazayo enokuphila nasemva kokufa kwabo babandakanyekileyo kulo. Inokusekwa kunxibelelwano oluqinileyo lokomoya kunye neemvakalelo okanye amaxabiso kunye neenjongo ezabelwana ngazo ebomini, kodwa nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, luphawu lwamandla kunye nolonwabo eluthandweni.

Shiya iikhomenti.