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Isincoko solonwabo nokubaluleka kwalo

 

Ulonwabo yimvakalelo enzulu kwaye kunzima ukuyichaza. Ngokombono wam, ulonwabo yiloo mvakalelo yokwaneliseka, ukwaneliseka kunye nokwaneliseka okusenza sizive silungile ngathi kunye nehlabathi elisingqongileyo. Ulonwabo lunokufumaneka kwizinto ezincinci nezilula ebomini, ezinjengoncumo, ukwanga okanye incoko emnandi, kodwa nakwizinto eziphunyeziweyo kunye nempumelelo esiyifumana kubomi bonke.

Kubantu abaninzi, ulonwabo lubotshelelwe kubudlelwane abanabo nabantu ebomini babo, nokuba ngabahlobo, usapho okanye iqabane lobomi. Kwangaxeshanye, abanye bakholelwa ukuba ulonwabo lunxulumene nempilo yabo nomzimba wabo, ngoxa abanye bekholelwa ukuba lunxulumene nempumelelo yabo yobungcali nemali.

Nokuba sicinga ntoni na ulonwabo, kubalulekile ukulufuna kwaye siluhlakulele kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Oko kuthetha ukuba sibe nombulelo ngayo yonke into esinayo kwaye sisoloko sifuna ukuba ngcono, siphuhlise izakhono zethu kwaye sifezekise iinjongo zethu. Kubalulekile ukuba sivuleleke kwaye samkele utshintsho kubomi bethu, siziqhelanise nazo kwaye sizisebenzise ukuze siziphucule.

Ulonwabo lunokuchazwa ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba akukho nkcazo yendalo yonke esebenza kubo bonke abantu. Kwabanye, ulonwabo lunokufumaneka ekufezekiseni iinjongo zobuqu kunye nezobugcisa, kwabanye ekuchitheni ixesha kunye nabathandekayo, ngelixa abanye, ulonwabo lunokufumaneka kwimisebenzi elula njengokuhamba epakini okanye incoko kunye nomlingane. Ulonwabo lunokuchazwa njengemvakalelo eyakhayo, imvakalelo yokwaneliseka nokwaneliseka, enokufumaneka ngeendlela ezahlukahlukeneyo.

Kulutsha oluninzi, ulonwabo lunokufumaneka ekuphononongeni nasekufumaneni izinto ezintsha nezinto ezinomdla. Xa sinikela ingqalelo kwizinto ezisivuyisayo nezisenza sonwabe, siya kufumana ulonwabo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ulonwabo lunokufumaneka kwizinto ezincinci kwaye kufuneka sivuleleke kumava amatsha kunye nahlukeneyo. Ulonwabo lunokufunyanwa nangaliphi na ixesha kwaye lunokufumaneka kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba uvule utshintsho kwaye ujabulele ubomi imihla ngemihla.

Ulonwabo lukwanxulumene nobudlelwane bethu nabo basingqongileyo. Ukuba nonxibelelwano oluhle, njengentsapho nabahlobo, kunokuba negalelo elikhulu kulonwabo lwethu. Kubalulekile ukugcina ubudlelwane bethu bulungile kwaye sivuleleke kwaye sinxibelelane nabo basingqongileyo. Kwangaxeshanye, kubalulekile ukuqiniseka ukuba sibeka phambili iimfuno zethu kwaye sifumane ulungelelwano phakathi kokuzinceda nokunceda abanye.

Ekugqibeleni, ulonwabo lunokuba luhambo, kungekhona nje indawo ekuyiwa kuyo. Kubalulekile ukonwabela umzuzu ngamnye wobomi bethu kwaye siphile ngoku endaweni yokugxila kakhulu kwikamva okanye kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunye nentliziyo evulekileyo, sinokufumana ulonwabo kwezona ndawo zingalindelekanga kwaye sizise ebomini bethu kunye nobomi babo basingqongileyo.

Ukuqukumbela, ulonwabo lunokuchazwa ngeendlela ezahlukahlukeneyo, kodwa enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo kukuba kukuzicingela kunye neemvakalelo zobuqu ezingenakuchazwa ngokubanzi. Umntu ngamnye unokufumana ulonwabo kwizinto ezahlukeneyo kunye namava obomi obukhethekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukujonga ulonwabo kwizinto ezilula kwaye sixabise amaxesha amahle ebomini bethu. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ulonwabo aluyiyo imeko esisigxina, kodwa kunoko yinkqubo ebandakanya umgudu kunye nomonde. Ngoko ke, sinokuzama ukuhlakulela ulonwabo ebomini bethu ngokwenza izinto ezisivuyisayo, ngolwalamano oluhle nabo sibathandayo, nangokuhlakulela imbono entle ngobomi. Ulonwabo sisipho esixabisekileyo esifanele sisixabise yaye sisihlakulele yonke imihla yobomi bethu.

 

Ingxelo "Yintoni ulonwabo"

I. Intshayelelo
Ulonwabo luluvo olubambekayo kunye noluntsokothileyo oluye lwabangela umdla kubantu ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye luphandwe ngamabala amaninzi, kubandakanya ifilosofi, isayikholoji kunye nentlalontle. Inkcazo yolonwabo inokwahluka kumntu nomntu, inkcubeko ngokwenkcubeko, kunye nexesha ukuya kwixesha, kodwa ngokubanzi ibhekisa kwimeko yokuphila kakuhle, ukwaneliseka kunye nokwaneliseka.

II. Imbali yengcamango yolonwabo
Kwifilosofi, uAristotle wayengowokuqala ukuxoxa ngengcamango yolonwabo kwimeko ecwangcisiweyo. Wayekholelwa ukuba ulonwabo lolona sukelo lubalaseleyo kubomi bomntu yaye lunokuphunyezwa ngokuqonda amandla omntu apheleleyo. Ebudeni beRenaissance, ingcamango yolonwabo yayinxulunyaniswa nengcamango yokuzazi nokuziphuhlisa, yaye ngenkulungwane ye-XNUMX, uBukhanyiso bakhuthaza ingcamango yokuba ulonwabo lunokufumaneka ngengqiqo nolwazi.

Funda  Uthando Lolutsha-Isincoko, Ingxelo, Ukwakhiwa

III. Iimbono zangoku ngolonwabo
Okwangoku, i-psychology eqinisekileyo yenye yezifundo ezigxile kufundo lolonwabo kunye nokuphila kakuhle. Igxininisa izakhono zomntu kunye nezixhobo, ezifana nethemba, ukubonga, ukunyaniseka kunye nokuqina, njengezinto eziphambili ekufezekiseni nasekugcineni ulonwabo. Uhlolisiso lubonisa ukuba ulonwabo lunokuphenjelelwa zizinto ezinjengolwalamano lwasekuhlaleni, impilo, ulwaneliseko lomsebenzi kunye nengeniso, kodwa akukho ndlela enye yolonwabo.

IV. Ulonwabo kwiPsychology kunye nePhilosofi
Ulonwabo sisihloko esinomdla kakhulu kwifilosofi nakwingqondo, kwaye ukuyichaza ngumsebenzi onzima kuba le ngcamango inokuba neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo kumntu ngamnye. Ngokubanzi, ulonwabo lunokuchazwa njengemeko yokwaneliseka, ukwaneliseka, okanye ulonwabo olunokubakho ngenxa yamava akhuthazayo anjengothando, impumelelo yomsebenzi, imisebenzi yokuzonwabisa, okanye ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo kunye nosapho. Nangona kunjalo, ulonwabo lunokuba yimeko yolungelelwaniso lwangaphakathi, uxolo, imvisiswano kunye nesiqu sakho kunye nabanye, enokuzuzwa ngezenzo ezinjengokucamngca, i-yoga okanye ukuzihlola.

Uninzi lwezifundo zengqondo ziye zajonga izinto ezinegalelo kulonwabo lomntu, kwaye iziphumo zibonisa ukuba kukho inani leempawu kunye neemeko ezixhasa ukuvela kwesi simo. Ezi zinto zibandakanya ubudlelwane bentlalontle, i-altruism kunye nokuvolontiya, impilo yomzimba kunye nengqondo, ukuzimela kunye nokwaneliseka emsebenzini kunye nobomi bomntu, kunye nengqiqo yokunxibelelana kwinto enkulu kunomntu. Ukongeza, uphando lubonise ukuba ulonwabo lunokuphenjelelwa yimfuza, indawo yentlalo kunye nenqanaba lemfundo.

Ngaphaya kwezi ngqwalasela zethiyori, kubalulekile ukugxininisa ukuba ulonwabo luxhomekeke kwimbono yomntu ngamnye kunye nemilinganiselo yakhe. Nangona kusenokubonakala kulusukelo oluhle nolunqwenelwayo kubantu abaninzi, ulonwabo alufumaneki lula, yaye ayisosiqinisekiso sobomi obanelisayo nobanelisayo. Endaweni yoko, inokuba sisikhokelo esiluncedo nesikhuthazayo sokukhokelela kwizenzo zethu ekuphileni into eyiyo, enoxanduva, kunye nekhoyo ngoku esivumela ukuba siphuhle ngendlela ehambelanayo kwaye sifikelele amandla ethu okuzaliseka ngokupheleleyo.

V. Isiphelo
Ukuqukumbela, ulonwabo luyingcamango entsonkothileyo neyiyo enokuthi ichazwe kwaye iqondwe ngokwahlukileyo ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye. Ngelixa imbali yengqikelelo yolonwabo igxile ngakumbi kwifilosofi kunye neengcinga, imbono yanamhlanje, yengqondo elungileyo, isondela kwisifundo ngokwembono esebenzayo nesebenzayo, ihlalutya izinto ezichaphazela imeko yentlalontle. Ekugqibeleni, ulonwabo yinkqubo eqhubekayo yokuzifumanisa kunye nophuhliso lomntu onokulinywa ngokusebenzisa izicwangciso ezahlukeneyo kunye nezixhobo zomntu.

 

Isincoko esingokubaluleka kolonwabo

 

Igama elithi “ulonwabo” linokuchazwa ngeendlela ezininzi, yaye lithetha into eyahlukileyo kuye ngamnye wethu. Abantu abaninzi bafuna ulonwabo kwizinto eziphathekayo, ngoxa abanye belufumana kulwalamano nabo babathandayo okanye ekufikeleleni usukelo lobuqu. Kum, ulonwabo aluyonjongo yokugqibela, kodwa yindlela yokuphila. Luhambo olubandakanya ukukhathalela umzimba nengqondo yakho, ukuba nombulelo ngento onayo, kunye nokwabelana ngothando novuyo nabo bakungqongileyo.

Ukuze sonwabe, kubalulekile ukunyamekela imizimba yethu. Le kuphela kwendawo esiya kuhlala sinayo kunye nathi, ngoko ke kufuneka sinikele ingqalelo kuyo kwaye siyithande. Ukutya okusempilweni, ukwenza umthambo rhoqo nokulala ngokwaneleyo zezinye zezinto ezinokuba negalelo kwimpilo-ntle yethu yomzimba. Xa imizimba yethu isempilweni yaye yomelele, siyakwazi ukumelana noxinezeleko size sibunandiphe ubomi.

Ulonwabo alupheleli nje emizimbeni yethu kodwa nengqondo yethu. Kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa izakhono zokulawula uxinzelelo, ukuziqhelanisa nokucamngca, kwaye sinikele ingqalelo kwiingcamango kunye neemvakalelo zethu. Xa sixinezelekile okanye sixhalabile, asinakonwaba. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukufumana iindlela zokuzola ingqondo yethu kwaye siphumle, njengokufunda, ukumamela umculo okanye ukuhamba ngendalo.

Asinakonwaba ngaphandle kobudlelwane obuhle nobothando nabo basingqongileyo. Iintsapho nabahlobo bethu ngabona basixhasayo nabasiqonda kakuhle, yaye uthando nothando lwabo lunokusenza sonwabe. Ukongezelela, ukunceda nokuba luncedo kwabo basingqongileyo kunokuba negalelo kulonwabo lwethu. Kwanezenzo ezincinci zobubele zinokuzisa uncumo ebusweni babantu kwaye zenze umahluko ebomini babo.

Ukuqukumbela, ulonwabo luluvo lobuqu kunye nelomntu, elichazwa ngumntu ngamnye. Oku kunokufumaneka kwizinto ezilula nezingalindelekanga, njengokuhamba epakini okanye ukuthetha nomntu omthandayo, kodwa nakwixesha elinzima ngakumbi, njengokuphumeza injongo okanye ukuzalisekisa umnqweno. Ukubaluleka kolonwabo ebomini bethu kukhulu kuba kusizisela imvakalelo yokwaneliseka kunye nokwaneliseka, kwaye kusishukumisela ukuba sifezekise iinjongo zethu kwaye sisoloko sikhangela iindlela ezintsha zokunandipha ubomi. Kubalulekile ukuthatha ixesha lokucamngca ngezinto ezisizisela ulonwabo kwaye sihlakulele la maxesha ebomini bethu, kuba kulapho kuphela apho sinokuthi siphile ubomi obugcweleyo nobanelisayo ngokwenene.

Shiya iikhomenti.