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Nkhani za Ukwati

 
Ukwati ndi chochitika chapadera m'moyo wa aliyense, wodzala ndi zomverera komanso zokumana nazo kwambiri. Ndi nthawi yokondwerera chikondi ndi mgwirizano pakati pa anthu awiri omwe amakondana ndipo asankha kugwirizanitsa tsogolo lawo. Kwa ine, ukwati uli ngati maloto akwaniritsidwa, nthawi yamatsenga komanso yosangalatsa pomwe zonse zimakumana bwino kuti apange chochitika chosaiwalika.

Ngakhale kuti ndakhalapo pa maukwati ambiri, sinditopa kuona chilichonse komanso kugoma ndi kukongola ndi kukongola kwa mbali iliyonse ya mwambo wapaderawu. Ndimakonda kuyang'ana momwe mkwatibwi akukonzekera, momwe nyumba yaukwati imakongoletsedwera komanso momwe matebulo amakongoletsedwa ndi maluwa ndi makandulo. Chikondwererochi chimamveka bwino ndipo aliyense akuwoneka kuti ali ndi mphamvu zabwino komanso chidwi.

Kuphatikiza apo, nyimbo ndi kuvina zimawonjezera chithumwa chapadera paukwatiwo. Ndimayang'ana maanja akuvina limodzi pomwe alendo akusilira ndi kuwomba m'manja. Ndizochititsa chidwi kuona momwe aliyense akugwirizanirana kudzera mu nyimbo ndi kuvina, madzulo apadera kwa okonda awiriwa.

Komanso, nthawi yomwe awiriwa akunena malumbiro awo achikondi ndi nthawi yokhudzidwa kwambiri. Ndimakonda kuwawona akuyang'ana m'maso mwawo ndikulumbira chikondi chamuyaya. Malonjezo amenewa ndi chizindikiro cha kudzipereka kwawo ndipo amapangitsa kuti aliyense amene akupezekapo azimva kuti ali mbali ya chikondi chimenechi.

Mu usiku wokhudzidwa mtima, banja langa linakonzekera chochitika chapadera: ukwati wa mchimwene wanga. Ndinali wokondwa komanso wokondwa, komanso kuda nkhawa pang'ono ndi zomwe ziti zichitike. Ukwati ndi mphindi yofunika mu moyo wa aliyense ndipo ndinali wokonzeka kugawana mphindi ino ndi banja langa ndi onse okondedwa anga.

Tinakhala maola ambiri kukonzekera ukwati wa mchimwene wanga. Mumlengalenga munali mphamvu yapadera, chisangalalo chambiri cha zomwe zinali pafupi kuchitika. Tinachitira umboni zonse: kuchokera ku maluwa mpaka kukongoletsa kwa holo ndi kukonza tebulo. Zonse zinakonzedwa bwino kuti ukwati wa mchimwene wanga ukhale wosaiwalika.

Ukwati womwewo unali wosangalatsa kwambiri mofanana ndi kukonzekera. Ndinaona abale ndi alongo atavala zovala zabwino kwambiri ndipo makolo athu ankavala zovala zawo zabwino kwambiri. Ndinaona achibale ndi anzanga onse akubwera kudzatenga nawo mbali pa mwambo wapaderawu. Ndinali kuyembekezera mwachidwi kubwera kwa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi ndipo ndinadabwa ndi kukongola kwawo.

Pamwambowu ndinaona mmene aliyense anakhudzidwira ndi chikondi chimene mkwati ndi mkwatibwi ankasonyezana. Zinali zochititsa chidwi kuona anthu awiri akubwera pamodzi mu chikondi chimodzi ndikulonjeza kukhala pamodzi mpaka kalekale. Ndinaona ngati kuti usiku waukwatiwo unabweretsa banja langa pafupi ndi kutigwirizanitsa m’njira yapadera.

Pomaliza, ukwati ndi chochitika chapadera chomwe chitha kuonedwa ngati ntchito yaluso pachokha, kuphatikiza kwatsatanetsatane kosankhidwa bwino ndikuphatikizidwa kuti apange chochitika chosaiwalika. Nthawi zonse ndikapita ku ukwati, ndimakhala wokondwa kukhala ndi mwayi wowona ndikuwona mphindi yapaderayi komanso yamatsenga.
 

Buku ndi mutu "Ukwati"

 
Mbiri ya anthu imakhala yodzaza ndi miyambo ndi miyambo, ndipo ukwati ndi umodzi mwa miyambo yofunika kwambiri, yomwe imadziwika ndi chikondwerero ndi chisangalalo, chomwe chimasonyeza chiyambi cha moyo watsopano. Mu pepalali, tiwona mbiri ya maukwati, miyambo ndi miyambo ya zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana komanso momwe idasinthira pakapita nthawi.

M’mbiri, ukwati unali ndi tanthauzo lofunika chifukwa unkaimira mgwirizano wa mabanja aŵiri, kugwirizana kwa miyoyo iwiri kukhala chinthu chimodzi. M’zikhalidwe zina, ukwati unkaonedwa ngati pangano, ndipo okwatiranawo anali ndi udindo wolemekeza zimene analonjezana. M’zikhalidwe zina, ukwati unkaonedwa ngati mwambo wachipembedzo ndipo okondana ankakwatirana pamaso pa Mulungu ndi chiyembekezo chodzakhala ndi banja losangalala ndi lachikondi.

Malingana ndi chikhalidwe ndi chipembedzo, ukwatiwo ukhoza kukhala mwambo waukulu ndi wosangalatsa kapena mwambo wamba wamba. M’zikhalidwe zambiri, ukwati ndi chikondwerero chimene chimatenga masiku angapo ndipo chimakhala ndi miyambo ndi miyambo yambiri. Mwachitsanzo, m’chikhalidwe cha Amwenye, ukwati ukhoza kutha kwa mlungu umodzi, ndipo mapwando kaŵirikaŵiri amaphatikizapo kuvina ndi kuimba, komanso zovala zokongola ndi zokongoletsera.

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M’chikhalidwe cha Azungu, ukwati kaŵirikaŵiri umakhala ndi mwambo wachipembedzo kapena wa boma wotsatiridwa ndi phwando la chakudya ndi zakumwa. Nthaŵi zambiri, ukwati umachitikira m’tchalitchi kapena malo ena achipembedzo, ndipo mwambowo umaphatikizapo kulumbirana malumbiro ndi mphete, kenaka n’kupsompsonana. Pambuyo pa mwambowu, okwatirana ndi alendo amasangalala ndi phwando lachikondwerero ndi chakudya, zakumwa ndi kuvina.

Mwambo wina wotchuka paukwati ndi kuvina kwa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi. Apa ndi pamene mkwati ndi mkwatibwi amavina pamodzi kwa nthawi yoyamba monga mwamuna ndi mkazi, akuzungulira alendo. M’zikhalidwe zambiri, kuvina kumeneku ndi nthaŵi yofunika kwambiri, ndipo nyimbo zimene zimasankhidwa n’zapang’onopang’ono komanso zachikondi. Koma m’zikhalidwe zina, kuvina kwaukwati ndi nthaŵi yachisangalalo ndi yosangalatsa, yokhala ndi nyimbo zofulumira ndi magule amphamvu. Mulimonse mmene zingakhalire, mphindi imeneyi ndi yofunika kwambiri ndiponso yokhudza mtima kwa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi ndiponso kwa onse amene ali paukwatiwo.

Mwambo wina wofunikira paukwati ndikuponya maluwa a bridal. Pa nthawiyi, mkwatibwi amaponya maluwa kwa atsikana osakwatiwa omwe ali paukwatiwo, ndipo mwambo umati mtsikana amene adzagwire maluwawo ndi amene adzakwatiwa. Mwambo umenewu unayamba kalekale ndipo ankakhulupirira kuti maluwawo amabweretsa mwayi komanso chonde. Masiku ano, kuponya maluwa a mkwatibwi ndi nthawi yosangalatsa komanso yamphamvu, ndipo atsikana osakwatiwa amayesetsa kugwira maluwa kuti akwaniritse maloto awo okwatiwa.

M’zikhalidwe zambiri, mwambo wina wotchuka paukwati ndiwo kudula keke yaukwati. Mphindiyi ikuyimira mgwirizano pakati pa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi ndipo ndi nthawi yofunikira kwa aliyense amene ali paukwati. Mkwati ndi mkwatibwi amadula pamodzi chidutswa choyamba cha keke, kenaka amadyetsana nacho kusonyeza chikondi ndi chikondi kwa wina ndi mnzake. M’zikhalidwe zambiri, keke yaukwati imakongoletsedwa ndi maluwa ndi zinthu zina zokongoletsera, ndipo kukoma kwake n’kofunika kubweretsa mwayi ndi chitukuko m’banja.

Pomaliza, ukwati ndi mwambo wofunika kwambiri womwe wasintha malinga ndi chikhalidwe ndi chipembedzo. Mosasamala za miyambo ndi miyambo yomwe ikukhudzidwa, ukwati ndi chikondwerero cha chikondi ndi chiyambi cha moyo watsopano pamodzi, ndipo uyenera kulemekezedwa ndi chisangalalo.
 

KANJIRA za Ukwati

 
Usiku wachilimwe uno, aliyense ali wodzaza ndi chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Ukwati umachitika pansi pa thambo la nyenyezi ndi kuwala kotentha kwa mwezi wathunthu. Mpweya umadzaza ndi fungo la maluwa ndipo kuseka ndi kumwetulira kumapatsirana. Achinyamata aŵiri akukwatirana ali pachimake cha chisamaliro, ndipo mkhalidwe wonsewo ukuwoneka kuti ukugwirizana ndi kuvina kwachimwemwe ndi chikondi.

Pomwe mkwatibwi akuwonekera, aliyense amakhala chete ndikutembenukira kwa iye. Chovala chake choyera chimanyezimira pakuwala kwa mwezi ndipo tsitsi lake lalitali lopindika limagwera m’mafunde kumsana kwake. Kutengeka mtima ndi chisangalalo zimatha kuwerengedwa m'maso mwake, ndipo sitepe iliyonse yomwe amapita kwa mkwati ndi yodzaza ndi chisomo ndi ukazi. Mkwati akuyembekezera mwachidwi wokondedwa wake, ndipo chidwi ndi chikondi zingawerengedwe m'maso mwake. Pamodzi, awiriwa amagwirizanitsa tsogolo lawo pamaso pa aliyense wopezekapo.

Mkhalidwe wapadera wa usiku wa chilimwe ndi kukongola kwaukwati uwu zimapanga kukumbukira kosaiŵalika kwa aliyense wa iwo omwe alipo. Nyimbo ndi kuvina kumapitirira mpaka mbandakucha, ndipo nkhani ndi zokumbukira zimalumikizana mu usiku wodzaza ndi chikondi ndi matsenga. Aliyense amene alipo amaona kuti ndi gawo la nthawi yapadera komanso yapadera, ndipo kumverera kwa mgwirizano ndi chisangalalo kumawagwirizanitsa mwapadera.

Usiku wachilimwe uno umakhalabe kukumbukira momveka bwino komanso kwamalingaliro kwa okonda awiriwa, mabanja awo komanso onse omwe adapezeka pamwambowu. Chochitika chomwe chimabweretsa anthu palimodzi, chimapanga kukumbukira ndikuyika maziko a moyo wachikondi ndi chisangalalo. Usiku wachilimwe uno umakhalabe wamoyo m'miyoyo ya iwo omwe anali ndi mwayi wokhala nawo, mu kuvina kwachikondi ndi moyo.

Siyani ndemanga.