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Nkhani yakuti “Chikondi Chamuyaya”

 

Chikondi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zamphamvu kwambiri komanso zamphamvu kwambiri zomwe titha kukhala nazo ngati anthu. Ndi mphamvu yomwe ingatilimbikitse, kutilimbikitsa ndi kutidzaza ndi chimwemwe, koma ingakhalenso magwero a zowawa ndi zowawa pamene atayika kapena osagawana nawo. Koma chikondi chosatha ndi chikondi chapadera chomwe chili chozama komanso chokhalitsa kuposa mtundu wina uliwonse wa chikondi.

Chikondi chamuyaya ndi chikondi chomwe chimakhala moyo wonse ndipo chikhoza kuchitika pakati pa anthu awiri omwe ali okwatirana kapena pakati pa kholo ndi mwana. Ndi chikondi chomwe chimadutsa nthawi ndi malo ndipo chilipo kupyola malire athu a thupi. Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti chikondi chamuyaya chilipo kupitirira dziko lapansi ndi kuti ndi mphamvu yaumulungu yomwe imamanga miyoyo yathu.

Chikondi chamtunduwu chingakhale mphatso komanso chovuta. Ngakhale kuti zingakhale zokongola modabwitsa komanso zokhutiritsa, zingakhalenso zovuta kupeza ndi kusunga chikondi chamuyaya. Izi zimafuna kudzipereka kosalekeza, kumvetsetsa mwakuya ndi kulankhulana momasuka ndi moona mtima pakati pa okondedwa. Kuonjezera apo, zingakhale zovuta kusunga chikondichi panthawi ya zovuta ndi zovuta, koma ndizotheka kupyolera mu kunyengerera, chikondi ndi kumvetsetsana.

Chikondi chamuyaya sichimangokhudza chikondi ndi chilakolako, komanso kukonda omwe ali pafupi nafe mopanda malire komanso popanda ziyembekezo. Kukonda motere kungasinthe miyoyo yathu ndikubweretsa kusintha kwabwino kudziko lathu.

Chikondi ndi mphamvu yomwe imadutsa nthawi ndi malo. Ikhoza kumanga miyoyo iwiri kwamuyaya, mosasamala kanthu za zochitika zakunja. Chikondi chamuyaya ndi mtundu wa chikondi umene umadutsa chotchinga chanthawi yochepa ndipo ukhoza kumveka ndikuzindikiridwa m'moyo wonse, mosasamala kanthu za msinkhu kapena pamene zichitika.

Ngakhale kuti chikondi chamuyaya nthawi zina chimawoneka ngati lingaliro lachikondi, pali zitsanzo zambiri zenizeni zomwe zimatsimikizira mosiyana. Maukwati omwe amatha zaka makumi angapo kapena zaka mazana ambiri ndi osowa, koma kulibe. Kuchokera kwa maanja otchuka monga Romeo ndi Juliet kapena Tristan ndi Isolde, kwa agogo athu aakazi ndi agogo aamuna omwe anali limodzi kwa moyo wonse, chikondi chamuyaya chimatikumbutsa kuti n'zotheka komanso zoyenera kumenyera nkhondo.

Ngakhale kuti chikondi chamuyaya chingawoneke ngati chosatheka poyamba, ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti izi sizikutanthauza kuti ubale udzakhala wangwiro kapena wopanda mavuto. Maubwenzi okhalitsa amafunikira ntchito yambiri, kunyengerera ndi kudzimana. Koma pakakhala chikondi chozama pakati pa anthu awiri, chingakhale chothandizira kwambiri kuthetsa vuto lililonse ndi kulimbana ndi mavuto a moyo pamodzi.

Pomaliza, chikondi chosatha ndi mphamvu yamphamvu ndi yokhalitsa yomwe ingadzaze miyoyo yathu ndi chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Ndi chikondi chomwe chimaposa nthawi ndi malo ndipo chikhoza kuchitika m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ngakhale kuti zingakhale zovuta kusunga chikondi chimenechi, n’zotheka kuchisunga mwa kudzipereka, chikondi ndi kumvetsetsana.

 

Za chikondi chamuyaya

 

I. Chiyambi

Chikondi ndi kumverera kwamphamvu komanso kwamphamvu komwe kumamveka mosiyanasiyana komanso mwamphamvu. Koma pali mtundu wina wa chikondi umene umaposa malire a nthawi ndi malo, wotchedwa chikondi chamuyaya. Chikondi chimenechi chimaonedwa ndi anthu ambiri kukhala chikondi choyera ndi chozama kwambiri kuposa mitundu yonse ya chikondi. Mu pepala ili, tipenda lingaliro la chikondi chamuyaya ndikuwunika mawonekedwe ake.

II. Makhalidwe a chikondi chamuyaya

Chikondi chamuyaya chimadziwika ndi mfundo yakuti chimapitirizabe kudutsa nthawi, kudutsa malire a moyo ndi imfa. Mtundu uwu wa chikondi ukhoza kudziwika mozama komanso mozama, kupanga mgwirizano umene umapitirira kuposa kumvetsetsa kwaumunthu. Chikondi chamuyaya sichikhoza kupezeka pakati pa anthu awiri okha, komanso pakati pa anthu ndi nyama, kapena pakati pa anthu ndi zinthu kapena malingaliro.

Chikondi chamuyaya chimaonedwanso kukhala chopanda malire, kutanthauza kuti sichimasonkhezeredwa ndi mikhalidwe kapena zochita za okhudzidwawo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mosasamala kanthu za mmene zinthu zilili, chikondi chamuyaya sichinasinthe ndipo sichimachepa kwambiri. Ndiponso, mtundu uwu wa chikondi ndi woyera ndi wopanda dyera, wosonkhezeredwa ndi chikhumbo chofuna kupereka chisangalalo ndi chikondi kwa okondedwa.

III. Zitsanzo za chikondi chosatha

Pali zitsanzo zambiri za chikondi chamuyaya m'mabuku ndi chikhalidwe chodziwika. Chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri ndi nkhani ya Romeo ndi Juliet, amene anafera limodzi m’mchitidwe wachikondi choyera ndi chosaipitsidwa. Chitsanzo china ndi kanema "Mzimu", kumene otchulidwa Sam ndi Molly akupitirizabe chikondi chawo ngakhale pambuyo pa imfa ya Sam.

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Palinso zitsanzo zambiri za chikondi chamuyaya pakati pa anthu ndi nyama, monga nkhani ya Hachiko, galu yemwe ankayembekezera mbuye wake pa siteshoni ya sitima tsiku lililonse kwa zaka 9, ngakhale atamwalira.

IV. Chikondi ngati utopia

M'dziko lomwe maubwenzi amakhala ongoyerekeza komanso osakhalitsa, chikondi chamuyaya chimatha kuwoneka ngati utopia. Komabe, pali anthu amene amakhulupirira mwamphamvu mphamvu ndi kulimba kwa chikondi chenicheni. Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti chikondi chamuyaya sichimangotanthauza kupeza wina woti mugawane naye moyo wanu, koma ndikupeza munthu amene amakwaniritsa ndi kukuthandizani mbali zonse za moyo wanu, mosasamala kanthu za zopinga zomwe zingabwere m'moyo wanu.

V. Kukhalapo kwa chikondi

Chikondi chamuyaya sichitanthauza kuti mudzakhala osangalala mphindi iliyonse, koma zikutanthauza kuti mudzakhala pamodzi ngakhale mutakumana ndi zovuta zotani. Ndi za kukhala wodekha, wachifundo, womvetsetsa, ndi kukhala wofunitsitsa kukonza ubale wanu tsiku lililonse. M’pofunikanso kukhala woona mtima ndi kulankhula momasuka, kulemekezana ndi kukhala wothandizana wina ndi mnzake nthawi zonse.

VI. Mapeto

Chikondi chamuyaya ndi mtundu wa chikondi chomwe chimadutsa nthawi ndi malo, kupanga mgwirizano wamphamvu ndi wosasinthika pakati pa omwe akukhudzidwa. Mtundu uwu wa chikondi umaonedwa ndi ambiri kukhala woyera ndi wozama kwambiri wa chikondi chamtundu uliwonse ndipo ukhoza kuchitika osati pakati pa anthu okha, komanso pakati pa anthu ndi nyama kapena zinthu. Pamapeto pake, chikondi chamuyaya chingaganizidwe ngati njira yomvetsetsa ndi kulumikizana.

 

Zolemba za chikondi chopanda malire

 

Chikondi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zamphamvu kwambiri padziko lapansi. Iye ndi wamphamvu kwambiri moti amatha kumangirira anthu pamodzi kwamuyaya. Nthaŵi zina chikondi chingakhale champhamvu kwambiri kotero kuti chimapitirizabe kukhalabe ndi moyo ngakhale pambuyo pa imfa ya amene akukhudzidwa nacho, n’kukhala chimene timachitcha “chikondi chosatha”.

Kwa nthaŵi yaitali, anthu ambiri otchuka asonyeza chikhulupiriro chawo chakuti chikondi chamuyaya chilipo. Mwachitsanzo, wolemba ndakatulo wa ku Italy Dante Alighieri analemba za chikondi chake kwa Beatrice mu "Divine Comedy", ndi Romeo ndi Juliet akuimira chitsanzo chachikondi chamuyaya m'mabuku. Mu moyo weniweni, palinso zitsanzo za chikondi chamuyaya, monga chikondi cha John Lennon ndi Yoko Ono kapena cha King Edward VIII ndi mkazi wake Wallis Simpson.

Koma nchiyani chimapangitsa chikondi kukhala chosatha? Ena amakhulupirira kuti ndi za mgwirizano wamphamvu wauzimu ndi wamaganizo pakati pa anthu awiri omwe akukhudzidwa omwe amawathandiza kuti azilankhulana ndikumvetsetsana mozama. Ena amakhulupirira kuti chikondi chamuyaya chimachokera pa mfundo yakuti anthu awiriwa ali ndi mfundo zofanana komanso zolinga zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala ogwirizana komanso ogwirizana.

Kaya chifukwa chake n’chotani, chikondi chosatha ndi kumverera kokongola ndi kolimbikitsa komwe kumatikumbutsa kuti pali china choposa maubwenzi apamtima komanso okhalitsa. Kungakhale magwero a nyonga ndi chilimbikitso kwa awo oloŵetsedwamo, kuwapatsa maziko olimba omangira unansi wanthaŵi yaitali ndi wachimwemwe.

Pomaliza, chikondi chosatha ndi kumverera kwamphamvu ndi kolimbikitsa komwe kungathe kukhalapo ngakhale pambuyo pa imfa ya omwe akukhudzidwa nawo. Zitha kukhazikitsidwa pa kulumikizana kolimba kwauzimu komanso kwamaganizidwe kapena zomwe amagawana komanso zolinga m'moyo, koma chifukwa chilichonse, ndi chizindikiro cha mphamvu ndi chisangalalo m'chikondi.

Siyani ndemanga.